Asking a girl you don't know for her phone number is potentially one of the most embarrassing and uneasy situations; read this guide and get that girls number.

OK so lets assess the situation. You are sitting in Starbucks drinking your cappuccino and you glance up and see the most beautiful girl you have ever set eyes on; you want her. However how do you go about asking for her phone number? Do you just go straight over on an impulse and demand it? Do you write her a message on a napkin with your number and hope she calls? Well, in this article we will show you how to go about this intimidating situation in the right way.

First of all it is important to boost your confidence. By this we don't mean that you should be cocky or arrogant but merely that you should get rid of any doubts or apprehensions that you have. Try to think positive; forget about any form of rejection you have had in the past and instead concentrate on what it will be like when she gives you her number. If you go over there without any self-confidence or a defeatist attitude then it is likely that she will notice this.

It is best not to grab your cappuccino and go and sit yourself down right beside her; if anything this will probably freak her out. Instead casually mover your way over towards her and then try to strike up a conversation. This is a lot easier than it seems. Perhaps start by asking a question: “how are you?”, or “how is your day going so far?”. It is more than likely that she will respond by, first answering your question, then second asking you one back; thus inviting you to talk to her. A conversation with a girl isn't something to be frightened off; the easiest way to go about it is to just treat it as a normal chat – don't let her beauty or your intentions cloud your ability to communicate.

Now what? You have started up a conversation but how do you move it onto the prospect of getting her number? Well you can try to find out what she is doing at the weekend. If she says something like “oh, me and my friends were thinking of going to this bar” then you could respond with “really? I will be in that area; perhaps we could meet up for a drink?”. This is a great way to suss her out and see if she is interested in you. If she agrees then suggest to exchange phone numbers to make meeting up easier.

You can approach this more directly and simply ask her for it. However this will probably not work most of the time as she will be a bit shocked and probably decline. It is also important to assess the situation. For example, does she have a wedding ring? Is she alone or with a guy who could be her boyfriend/husband? Does she look like she is doing something important, work maybe? All these need to be taken into consideration before you make your move. It should also be stressed that getting the girls number doesn't mean that she will go out with you however it is certainly a step in the right direction.