Sadly we will all probably experience being dumped at some point in our lives; the dreaded ‘talk’ or a dear john letter. However instead of wallowing in a pool of self-pity and alcohol, read this article and make an attempt to get her back, that is, if she’s worth it?’

First of all don’t let her see you wallowing in said pool of self-pity and alcohol; be cool. There is a fine line here between being cool and respecting her decision and being nonchalant and seemingly not caring. We certainly do not want the latter as this will never get a girl back. Instead live life. Use this as a time to do the things that you want to do; not only will this show her that you haven’t completely broken down but it was also give you time do reflect and decide if you really want her back. If you decide that you do then the following will help you:

• Ignore her, but not completely
• Socialize with others
• Start to woo her again

Let us take the first on the list, ignoring her. This doesn’t mean that you should not reply to her texts or delete her number or something equally as drastic; instead act like you aren’t at her beck and call. If she phones don’t answer straight away, let it ring a few times; similarly if she texts you on a Saturday night (even drunkenly) don’t reply right away. This will show her that you have precious little else to do other than communicate with her. Trying to give the impression that you are getting on with life is key.

Secondly don’t mope around the house, instead go out and socialize. This can work wonders if she see’s you with another girl. I don’t mean all over this other girl but just talking to her, laughing at her jokes etc… these will all stir up feelings of jealousy in your ex and plant the seeds for getting her back. After you have followed these two methods she should be softening up a bit. The realization that you are getting on with life and starting to see other people may just show her than she has made a big mistake in letting you go. Now it is time to woo her again.

Think back to when you first started going out; no expense was spared, you created little gifts for her, surprises etc… it’s time to revert back to these days and start as if she was a new girl. Make sure you have started doing the first two tips though because by implementing ‘Operation woo the ex’ on its own will make you seem pathetic and clingy.

The central tip here is to be cool and calm. If you start freaking out and need your mom to intervene and look after you then you will never get her back. Start to move on but at the same time leave the possibility for her return there. By following the tips in this article is shouldn’t be long until you have her back.