In this article we will be offering some tips on how to get a girl to go on a date with you and hopefully remove some of the fear associated with asking ‘the question’.

For most of us the prospect of asking ‘the question’, asking a girl on a date, is daunting, frightening and intimidating. Humans have a basic fear of rejection and nothing is worse than asking that girl whom you have admired for months only for her to turn round and say no. Hopefully in the following paragraphs we can show you how to lessen the chance of her rejecting you outright.

For a start it is best to not just dive straight into the deep end and ask her out. It is much better to get to know her first; discover what she likes, her interests, any hobbies she might have etc… Then try to become involved in these activities even if you aren’t wild about them yourself. This could have an added bonus because if she suspects you aren’t that into an activity she enjoys but are doing it anyway then she will notice that you are doing it for her. However it is advised to be careful when trying to get close to her; just make sure that you do not move into the ‘friends’ category because once this happens it is unlikely that you will get a date with her for fear if ‘complicating the friendship’. This method can also be used if she has already rejected you. However depressing it may be look at it as a challenge and try to show her that you are suitable for her.

Now that we have covered the more subtle route what about the direct road? While we have said that it is not generally advised to ask her outright without any warning, sometimes this can work although it is important how and when you do it. For instance, don’t approach her while she is out with her friends and ask her out in front of them because this will usually end in tears; either she will be mortally embarrassed or she will say no and you are left looking like an idiot in front of everyone. If you are hell bent on using the direct method then make sure to ask her privately. Either grab a moment when she is alone or ask to speak to her by herself; at least this way it reduces and possible public humiliation.

There is a third way although it is not the most romantic. If you are really quite shy, easily embarrassed or timid then perhaps asking her out on the phone is the best route for you. How do you ask her? Well again it is best advised to do this subtly. Perhaps mention that you are thinking of getting tickets to some event and would she like to join you? Maybe as a date? By doing this you are keeping the impact of it being a full blown date down but at the same time you aren’t diminishing its value.

Asking a girl out is one of the hardest things to do, however go about it in the right manner and you should have no problems. Although, if at first you don’t succeed, try again.